It’s normal to have mixed feelings when you are leaving your child with a sitter for the first time. You might be nervous and excited at the same time. Now that you have done the first task of finding a great babysitter, it’s time to think about the next phase. Here are a few tips to help you make the transition:

 

1. Prepare
Put together a note for the sitter with information such as your child’s activities and bedtime routine.  Remember to include emergency information and any other helpful hints around the house that you would like the sitter to know (See our “Leave a note for the babysitter” post). It is also important to prepare your child for the experience. Convey to him or her that you are going out and reinforce that you will be returning back home. You can also make sure that your child is well fed and rested, so he or she won’t have a hard time seeing you leave.

2. Have the sitter come early
Have the sitter come half an hour before you need to leave. Use this time to introduce your child to the sitter. Make sure that you review all the information that you have prepared with the sitter. You can be specific, explain your expectations and state the rules.  The more information and structure you provide the more likely things will go as you like.

 

3. Keep your goodbyes short
Don’t sneak out without saying goodbye, however make sure your child is enjoying a toy or activity with the sitter. When you are ready to go, say your goodbyes and leave swiftly. Know that if your child becomes distressed when you are leaving, it’s natural. This may happen the first time or several times when you leave them with a sitter. As long as they calm down after you leave and play or engage with the sitter, they are fine.

 

 

4. Trust that it will be okay

Try not to worry too much. If you are concerned, you can check in with the sitter to ease your nerves. But, remember that such separations are usually harder on the parent than the child.

 

Finally, don’t forget to enjoy your time out, stress-free and without guilt!